Category Archives: dating

How I lost my curfew

My goal was always to be as quiet as possible. They needed to remember in the morning that I had satisfied the requirements of our arrangement, but I wanted drowsiness to prevent them from focusing too much on the exact time of my arrival.

Too Good to be True

Too good to be true. Aren’t we all? We’re all messy with scar tissue and various types of stupidity, so I’m not saying that I’m perfect or that I’m not a piece of work myself. I’m saying that what we are on paper—our professional and social resumes, our accolades and exploits—counts for less than how […]

Gutsy but not Smooth (Part II)

”Oh gosh, I just made myself sound like a total loser.”

Gutsy but not Smooth (Part I)

I knew that Rob had no expectation that I’d actually do it. I wanted to see the look on his face, and he was right, I had nothing to lose.

Any Word but Pornography

I represented everything that she hated about men.

Sweet, Necessary Craziness (Part II)

Men and women need one another’s craziness to stay sane

Sweet, Necessary Craziness (Part I)

Being in charge offers men the false guarantee of a coherent world

My First Kiss

First kisses can beautiful, psychedelic, and terrifying experiences. Like LSD, crystal meth, or hallucinogenic mushrooms, they can forever alter your neurochemistry. “Just one,” you tell yourself. “I’ll just eat one of these bright red Amanita Muscaria mushrooms and have a story to tell my friends.” Oh contraire, my friend. You’ll ruin your life. I was […]

The Toast

My dating history is a mashup of triumphs and failures. My longest relationship to date was a nine-month soiree with a lovely young woman named Lindsay. I remember the very first time I saw her. She was walking through the rows of cardio equipment at the Maryland Farms YMCA. I was running on a treadmill […]

In praise of 7s and 8s

Love is something that we practice.